What Is the Cure for Severe Sadness Despite Maintaining Worship and Adhkar?

Question: I have an issue that is causing me immense distress. I am a Sunni Salafi and a student of knowledge, all praise is due to Allah. I pray, fast, and avoid what is unlawful. I do not speak to women, listen to music, or trim anything from my beard. I am suffering from severe worry and sadness, to the point that sometimes I wish I could die. I have tried ruqyah, and all praise is due to Allah, whenever I perform ruqyah on myself, I feel well and relieved, and I do not experience that sadness. However, this only lasts for one day, then the worry and sadness return to the extent that I cannot even think about how to treat it. I do not neglect the morning and evening adhkar, the adhkar before sleep, or any of the daily remembrances. This sadness has prevented me from engaging in acts of worship and seeking knowledge. Every day I sit on my bed using my phone until night comes. What is the remedy, Shaykh? What should I do?

Summary:

We advise the questioner to fear Allah, be patient with this trial, and not surrender to sadness and idleness. He should know that a believer may be afflicted with worry and grief despite being righteous and steadfast. Not every instance of sadness is caused by weak faith, magic, or the evil eye. He should combine adhkar, ruqyah, and dua with practical means such as staying active, working, keeping company with righteous people, and avoiding isolation. He should also consult a qualified physician if the matter continues, for seeking medical treatment is legislated and does not contradict reliance upon Allah.

Answer:

First:

We advise you to praise Allah for your commitment to prayer, adhkar, and staying away from prohibited matters. These are tremendous blessings for which Allah should be thanked.

However, know that a believer may be afflicted with worry and sadness despite his righteousness and steadfastness.

From the Qur'an:

  • Surah Yusuf 12:84
    "And his eyes became white from grief, for he was suppressing sorrow."

From the Sunnah:

  • Reported by al-Bukhari.
    The Prophet ﷺ used to say: "O Allah, I seek refuge in You from worry and grief."

    If worry and grief never affected the people of faith, the Prophet ﷺ would not have sought refuge from them.

Second: Do Not Restrict the Cause to Magic, the Evil Eye, or Possession. The fact that you benefit from ruqyah for a day or for some time does not necessarily mean that the cause of the problem is magic or the evil eye. A person may suffer from psychological distress, depression, or mental exhaustion. His soul may feel calm during ruqyah and dhikr, then the sadness returns afterward. For this reason, a Muslim should not make every instance of worry or sadness that befalls him a matter of magic or possession. Rather, he should consider all the Islamic and worldly causes. Third: Beware of Idleness and Isolation. Among the most serious things you mentioned is your statement: "I sit on my bed every day and use my phone until night comes." This is among the greatest causes of increasing worry and sadness.

From the Scholars:

  • Ibn al-Qayyim said:
    "Among the greatest things that corrupt the heart are idleness and inactivity."

    Idleness leads to excessive thinking, whispers, and dwelling upon sorrows.

Therefore, commit yourself to a daily program, even if it is difficult upon the soul at first: Walking daily. Leaving the house. Attending lessons of knowledge. Visiting righteous people. Reading the Quran with reflection. Occupying yourself with memorizing texts or reviewing them. Engaging in beneficial work, business, or study. Fourth: Increase in the Legislated Supplications Among the most beneficial supplications are:

From the Sunnah:

  • Reported by Ahmad, and this is his wording, Ibn Hibban, and al-Tabarani. Shaykh al-Albani graded it authentic in al-Silsilah al-Sahihah.Narrated Abdullah ibn Masud (may Allah be pleased with him):
    The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: "No person is ever afflicted with anxiety or grief and says: 'O Allah, I am Your servant, the son of Your servant, the son of Your maidservant. My forelock is in Your Hand. Your judgment concerning me is executed, and Your decree concerning me is just. I ask You by every Name belonging to You, which You have named Yourself with, revealed in Your Book, taught to any of Your creation, or kept with Yourself in the knowledge of the unseen, to make the Quran the spring of my heart, the light of my chest, the remover of my sorrow, and the banisher of my anxiety,' except that Allah removes his anxiety and grief and replaces them with relief." He said: It was said: "O Messenger of Allah, should we not learn these words?" He ﷺ said: "Yes. Whoever hears them should learn them."
  • In Sahih Abi Dawud:Narrated Abu Bakrah Nufay ibn al-Harith (may Allah be pleased with him):
    The Prophet ﷺ used to say: "The supplications of the distressed are: 'O Allah, it is Your mercy that I hope for, so do not leave me to myself for the blink of an eye. Rectify all of my affairs for me. There is no deity worthy of worship except You.'"

    And some narrations contain additional wording.

  • Reported in Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim.Narrated Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him):
    The Prophet ﷺ said: "No fatigue, illness, anxiety, grief, harm, or distress befalls a Muslim, even the prick of a thorn, except that Allah expiates some of his sins because of it."

    Explanation: Patience during illness and trials carries a tremendous reward with Allah, the Mighty and Majestic. Allah has made trials an expiation for the sins of the believer and a means of raising his rank.

This hadith comforts the believer regarding the hardships of this world and the illnesses and pains that afflict him. Everything that befalls a believer is good for him. The Prophet ﷺ said: "No calamity," and the indefinite wording of the word calamity indicates generality and inclusiveness, meaning any calamity, whether great or small, that affects a Muslim, except that it serves as an expiation for his sins. Another agreed-upon hadith details these afflictions. Whether it is fatigue, worry, distress, or grief, no hardship befalls a believing servant except that Allah raises his rank, removes his sins, and purifies him through it from his sins and acts of disobedience. Even if that hardship is merely a thorn that causes pain to the servant, and he bears its harm and pain patiently seeking reward from Allah, without resentment or complaint to anyone, Allah expiates some of the servant's sins through it as a favor and generosity from Him, the Most High, toward His Muslim servant. The hadith also demonstrates Allah's favor upon His believing servants and His mercy toward them by forgiving sins through even the slightest harm that befalls them.

From the Sunnah:

  • In Sahih Muslim:Narrated Suhayb ibn Sinan al-Rumi (may Allah be pleased with him):
    The Prophet ﷺ said: "How amazing is the affair of the believer! Indeed, all of his affairs are good, and that is for no one except the believer. If something pleasing happens to him, he is grateful and that is good for him. If something harmful happens to him, he is patient and that is good for him."

Fifth: There Is No Harm in Consulting a Doctor If the sadness continues for a long period and is accompanied by: Loss of motivation. Weak desire for worship and seeking knowledge. Excessive sleep or lack of sleep. Isolation from people. Sitting for long periods without productive activity. Then there is no harm in consulting a trustworthy mental health professional, because psychological illnesses are like other illnesses.

From the Sunnah:

  • In Sahih Ibn Majah:Narrated Usamah ibn Sharik (may Allah be pleased with him):
    I witnessed the Bedouins asking the Prophet ﷺ: "Is there any blame upon us regarding such-and-such? Is there any blame upon us regarding such-and-such?" He said to them: "Servants of Allah, Allah has not placed hardship except upon the one who wrongfully takes something from the honor of his brother, for that is the one who is blameworthy." They then asked: "O Messenger of Allah, is there any sin upon us if we do not seek treatment?" He ﷺ said: "Seek treatment, servants of Allah, for Allah, Glorified be He, has not placed any disease except that He has placed alongside it a cure, except old age." They asked: "O Messenger of Allah, what is the best thing a servant can be given?" He ﷺ said: "Good character."

    Seeking treatment does not contradict reliance upon Allah. Rather, it is part of taking the legislated means.

Important Note Your statement: "I want to die sometimes." If what is meant by this is wishing for death in order to escape the severity of the trial, then the Prophet ﷺ prohibited that.

From the Sunnah:

  • Reported in Sahih al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim. (Agreed upon.)Narrated Anas ibn Malik (may Allah be pleased with him):
    The Prophet ﷺ said: "None of you should wish for death because of a hardship that has befallen him. Rather, he should say: "O Allah, keep me alive so long as life is better for me, and cause me to die when death is better for me."

However, if these thoughts develop into serious contemplation of self-harm or suicide, then help must be sought immediately from trustworthy people or the appropriate authorities, and one should not remain alone. Final Answer: What appears from your description is that your treatment is not limited to ruqyah alone. Rather, it requires combining dhikr, dua, and ruqyah with practical means such as abandoning idleness and isolation, and gradually returning to knowledge, work, and the company of righteous people. If the matter continues and severely affects your life and worship, then consult a qualified physician, for seeking treatment is legislated, and Allah, the Exalted, has not sent down any disease except that He has sent down for it a cure. We ask Allah to expand your chest, remove your worries, and grant you a way out from every hardship and relief from every distress. Amin.

And Allah knows best.

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